Often when I present on global mission, after I’ve made a lengthy pitch about parish discernment and ways in which I can support the discernment effort, someone inevitably says something like, “just tell me what you need,” or “is there a list somewhere of things we can support?” While that’s an understandable desire, particularly when the work of discernment is difficult, it, unfortunately, doesn’t make for sustainable partnerships.

I could tell you about some possible projects in Tanzania. I could share that Wilfred, the headmaster of the diocesan secondary school in Hegongo could use a few thousand toward a new chemistry lab or the reconstruction of the chapel. I could advise you to give medical books to the library of the School of Nursing at Teule Hospital. If you asked about Central America, I could encourage you to donate to the diocesan road construction project in El Maizal, El Salvador, or how to sponsor a child at El Hogar in Honduras, or maybe how to support the Diocesan school, Holy Cross, in Belize. But then who has the relationship with the organization? … me. We need to ask ourselves what makes a relationship sustainable and whether or not giving another $1,000 from next year’s mission budget constitute “sustainable” or a “relationship?”

If you're looking for opportunities to donate money toward mission, then there are many. On the Diocesan website, www.diomass.org , you'll find a link to Jubilee. The committee is doing great deal of work in Africa and would welcome your involvement and contribution toward their many AIDS projects in East Africa. If you’d rather, Episcopal Relief & Development (ERD), www.er-d.org , raises funds for a variety of programs from emergency relief around the world to specific projects such as the distribution of mosquito nets for the prevention of malaria. If you’d like more options, there is Save the Children, Children International, Feed the Children, The Heifer Project, Direct Relief International, Doctors without Borders, and … take your pick.

Go ahead and donate. Donations are necessary, and our contributions go a long way in addressing the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs). But don’t fool yourself into thinking that means you have a “relationship.” Relationships develop when you “relate.” Relationships take time and effort. They require action and interaction. As we get frustrated by the differences in our uses of technologies, negotiate times to call that compensate for differences in time zones, deal with snafus in the itinerary, learn about added fuel tax for our trip due to the rising cost of fuel oil in the region where we’ll be travelling, discuss food allergies and medications for warding off regional illness … a relationship begins to emerge. When we see commonalities and dissimilarities, talking about raising our children, addressing typical challenges at church, learning about new liturgical ideas … these are the ways in which we begin to plumb the depths of a new friendship. These are the signs of a relationship. These are the signs that a global partnership is forming.

In El Salvador, Bishop Barahona expressed this well when he shared with the Mission Leadership participants that he once turned a visitor away. He shared that he was talking about relationships and the desire to be in relationship with the visitor’s diocese. He then shared the kinds of things they might do together. At that moment the guest pulled out a check book and asked how much he needed for one particular project. His response was to ask if the person had heard anything that he had said. He wasn’t interested in his money, because if it’s about money, there are lots of places to get it. He was interested in relationship. He was interested in the empowerment that emerges when people from other countries show interest in the work of their church and in learning more about their experience. He wants the church of El Salvador to have the opportunity of experiencing that they are seen as brothers and sisters by their Anglican colleagues, evidenced by our willingness to come work beside them in El Salvador as they, too, work to fulfill God’s mission in the world. He concluded his comments to us by summarizing as follows, “You can’t fix our problems, nor do we want you to. But we all share in the same baptismal covenant … we are all called to the same mission … God’s mission. Come work beside us, joining together in mission.”